In case questions rise.
Jun. 12th, 2006 10:38 amAs you may or may not have noticed, I'm broadening my fandom horizons quite thoroughly, not just moving from one fandom to the next, but adding, adding more and even more. I've been wanting to add more people and communities of these other fandoms, but that means there's no way I can keep up with my friendslist anymore. Some people manage to keep up with hundreds of people on their list, I admire that, but I just can't. So I've been missing out on stuff, skipping personal posts left and right, some of them important, and I hate it when that happens.
I'm sorry, I cave, I surrender, I admit; I can't do this any more. I want to read fics and leave feedback after I've done so. I want to keep rec'ing stuff, because that's what I like doing. And I want to be able to read and actually react to people when they write something about their daily life. When good things happen to them, or when hugs are needed. I haven't been able to be there for people like I want to. I've read fics and haven't left feedback as often as I want to. I've been skipping posts where I think people on my flist may expect me to read them and be aware of what's going on in their lives.
So this means I've just made a flist-trim. I've been thinking about doing this for quite a while, and didn't know how to go about it. Writing emails to people personally seemed like a good idea, but when I started writing them it felt like I was making too big a deal of it, or was forcing people to react, or whatever. The idea felt right, but I couldn't get the emails the way I wanted them to be. Announcing a flist-trim felt even worse! Doing it and explaining afterward like I'm doing here doesn't feel right either *sigh*
Anyway. If you noticed I've disappeared from your 'friend of' list, and wondered what the fuck that was about, these are the reasons. It's got nothing to do with an entry you've written recently, it wasn't something you said.
In real life you also meet people. At school, as colleagues, living in the same neighbourhood. And in real life people finish school, change jobs, move to other towns. It means you don't see each other as often as you used to, but it's nice having a chance meeting every once in a while. Hey how are you doing! It all goes natural. At LJ with those lists, it's all so deliberate.
Feel free to comment, email, ask questions, unfriend me or stay. Just don't tell me that I should have done this differently, because I already know that. I just don't know how.
I'm sorry, I cave, I surrender, I admit; I can't do this any more. I want to read fics and leave feedback after I've done so. I want to keep rec'ing stuff, because that's what I like doing. And I want to be able to read and actually react to people when they write something about their daily life. When good things happen to them, or when hugs are needed. I haven't been able to be there for people like I want to. I've read fics and haven't left feedback as often as I want to. I've been skipping posts where I think people on my flist may expect me to read them and be aware of what's going on in their lives.
So this means I've just made a flist-trim. I've been thinking about doing this for quite a while, and didn't know how to go about it. Writing emails to people personally seemed like a good idea, but when I started writing them it felt like I was making too big a deal of it, or was forcing people to react, or whatever. The idea felt right, but I couldn't get the emails the way I wanted them to be. Announcing a flist-trim felt even worse! Doing it and explaining afterward like I'm doing here doesn't feel right either *sigh*
Anyway. If you noticed I've disappeared from your 'friend of' list, and wondered what the fuck that was about, these are the reasons. It's got nothing to do with an entry you've written recently, it wasn't something you said.
In real life you also meet people. At school, as colleagues, living in the same neighbourhood. And in real life people finish school, change jobs, move to other towns. It means you don't see each other as often as you used to, but it's nice having a chance meeting every once in a while. Hey how are you doing! It all goes natural. At LJ with those lists, it's all so deliberate.
Feel free to comment, email, ask questions, unfriend me or stay. Just don't tell me that I should have done this differently, because I already know that. I just don't know how.
